Seven Truths About Suffering That Bring More Comfort Than Knowing “Why?”


“How long?”

That’s what we really want to know. We want God to answer, to give an account of Himself.

“How long will the pain last?”

“Why did he leave me?”

“Why did she die so young?”

“How long will I be unemployed?”

“Why won’t they leave me alone?

“Why me? Why now? Why this?”

Sometimes we learn the answers; often not. But still, we ask.

The asking is built into us; we can’t help it. We ask, “Why?” because we understand cause and effect. We ask, “How long?” because we discern beginnings and endings. We ask because we’re human. Even Jesus, the divine human asked, “Why have you forsaken me?”


“Why?” and “How long?” rarely have clear answers. But there are other questions to which you can always know the answers. They have definite yes/no clarity anyone can grasp. But, I hope you won’t ask them when you suffer.

❯ Is God here?

❯ Does God care?

❯ Is God part of this?

❯ Did God cause this?

❯ Does God have a purpose for this?

❯ Is God punishing me?

❯ Will I be okay?

I say, I hope you won’t ask them when you suffer, because I know you’ll need the answers before you suffer. The answers, part of a biblical perspective on suffering, are so much harder to find in the storm. And yet, we rarely think about such things before we need them. We are often like Aesop’s grasshopper who idled away the summer with never a thought of preparing for winter.

People who expect suffering to come will read and think and pray and wrestle with these questions well before the storm hits. Then, in the storm, they hang on to those truths for hope and comfort. Without them, suffering preys upon our pain or grief injecting fear and doubt that eats away at our hope.


But with clear answers to these questions, we have an anchor for our souls and a reason to hope.

A biblical perspective on suffering accepts the certainty of suffering but embraces the hope of God’s reign over it.

I have observed this in my wife, Dawn, who has had a life-long struggle with panic disorder. A storm that never lets up, she fights it every day. On the outside she’s conversing with a friend, or washing the dishes, or hiking in the woods. But in her mind, she’s straining to hold the door closed against a biting wind of anxious thoughts.

What holds her together is a biblically-informed perspective on suffering.

❯ She knows God is real and He is here, holding the door against the storm with her.

❯ She knows God cares, having the empathy of one who has experienced ultimate suffering and sorrow himself.

❯ She knows God is in this with her, like a father who wraps his child in his coat and bears the worst of the wind.

❯ She knows we live in a broken, cursed world full of sin, death and suffering, and yet God directs all things as the Sovereign Lord of all. Though she cannot fully grasp this mystery of providence, she knows her suffering does not escape His loving notice, nor is it beyond His power. She knows she is neither a victim of fate, nor the devil.

❯ She knows His purpose toward her is only good eternally. And although the path in this life has many hazards,  God makes even these serve her greater, eternal good.

❯ She knows God is not punishing her for Christ was fully punished in her place, and lives again as the Mediator of her favor with God.

❯ And therefore she knows, with soul-deep certainty, she will be okay. Her God and Savior made a promise.

What an anchor this is for her soul!

What a comfort and hope this can be for your soul!

The world is hard and full of trouble, yet you can arm yourself against the day of trouble with the knowledge that if you belong to Christ, God is here. He does care. He’s in it with you. He has a purpose. He’s not mad at you. You will be okay.

If you’ll take the time to find out if this is true—by reading the Bible and the books of great Christians who have suffered before you—then, you can know before you need to know. And you may find that knowing these things is a greater comfort than knowing why or how long.


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When Bad Things Happen

photo of a van after a collision

[Our son’s delivery van after a collision on December 19th, 2013.]

This Photo Friday I’m sharing a photo of the Freightliner delivery van which our son, Häns, was driving yesterday when a large SUV crossed into his lane and hit him head-on.

Bad things happen.

In ancient times Job asked,

Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?


True Christian faith is realistic about the bad things that happen to us and those we love. God hasn’t promised any special protections to His people from accidents, natural disasters, disease, or death. Any modern brand of Christianity that claims otherwise is false. What God has promised is that every event in our lives—both good and bad—will only contribute to our eternal blessedness. (see Romans 8:28-30).

Good and bad now.

Perfect good later.

All under God’s control.

Learning to trust our great God in all things is tough, a life-long process for all of us.

We are thankful that Häns walked away from this without injury, so our trust wasn’t tested this time.


Free Kindle Book: “A Place of Healing”

Hello Average Us readers.

We thought you might want to get this free Kindle ebook (works on Kindle for iPad, too), A Place of Healing.

In it, well-known Christian author Joni Eareckson Tada writes about her experience as a follower of Jesus living with chronic physical pain.

As you know, Dawn and I believe God is great, yes; but our lives are often average, filled with measures of joy and sorrow, peace and trial, fulfillment and pain that He governs for our good. Joni, understands this, and offers us a valuable glimpse into her own experience of pain and faith in this world.

We hope you can get this freebie and that it will inspire renewed faith in God’s providential care for His children in all things.

Here’s the book description:

In this eloquent account of her current struggle with physical pain, Joni Eareckson Tada offers her perspective on divine healing, God’s purposes, and what it means to live with joy. Over four decades ago, a diving accident left Joni a quadriplegic. Today, she faces a new battle: unrelenting pain. The ongoing urgency of this season in her life has caused Joni to return to foundational questions about suffering and God’s will. A Place of Healing is not an ivory-tower treatise on suffering. It’s an intimate look into the life of a mature woman of God. Whether readers are enduring physical pain, financial loss, or relational grief, Joni invites them to process their suffering with her. Together, they will navigate the distance between God’s magnificent yes and heartbreaking no—and find new hope for thriving in-between.